As a female entrepreneur myself, I am speaking from experience. We are hard on ourselves. Way hard. We put everything in front of us and then, when it comes to our own self-care, we say we’re “too busy.” Now, anyone that knows me knows I hate hearing someone say they’re “too busy” because all that tells me is that they don’t find that whatever they’re “too busy” for is not a priority. Why would I say that? Because we are all given the same number of hours in each day. 24. It doesn’t change. What changes is what we DO with those 24 hours we’re blessed with.
I am trying to put my self-care more on my priority list and, well, it’s been challenging. So far this week, I’ve only been to the gym a few times (I’d rather like to go 5-6 times to work out my stress). I’ve skipped a few meals (I’d rather be sure I’m eating well all day, every day). I’ve not had enough water (one day I only had 1 glass the entire day! Eeeek!).
I became an entrepreneur with an amazing business to give myself more flexibility, time freedom, and more financial freedom.
Am I succeeding? Yes.
Am I making an A+ on that report? Not quite.
I’ve got a confession to make. Today, I’ve eaten popcorn for lunch, haven’t drunk enough water, and I’ve procrastinated going to the gym because I’m “too busy.”
I started my business to give myself more flexibility and abundance, but I’m the first to admit that I let my self-care slide all the time.
Richard Branson said, “Entrepreneurs work 100 hours a week so they don’t have to work 40 hours for someone else.”
Whaaaaat??? This is NOT why I went in for business for myself!!
So, what exactly is Self-Care?
Self-care isn’t just about getting massages, manicures, and facials. It’s about giving yourself TIME to live your life.
It’s about treating yourself well, as if you were your very own best friend.
Does owning your own business make it easy to ignore your own self-care?
Of course it does!
When you’re grinding your day away for 40+ hours a week for someone else to achieve their dreams they have some (albeit grey) boundaries for you. You [should] have set working hours; a time when you show up to work and a time when you leave work (and you SHOULD leave work at work)!
But, owning your own business is different.
No one else is telling you when to start work, when to end work, if you should take a lunch break, if you shouldn’t work 100+ hours this week.
As an entrepreneur, you may say to yourself that you’ll focus on you when you’ve gotten to a certain level, made a certain amount of money, paid off a certain debt, or become successful.
Common Mistakes Made By Entrepreneurs
- NUTRITION: Skipping meals, eating junk food, taking too much caffeine, not drinking enough water.
- SLEEP: Not getting enough sleep, working late into the night, or getting up way too early for client calls. You need 8 hours of sleep.
- HEALTH: Ignoring your body’s need to pee because you “just need five more minutes to finish this job”.
- FITNESS: Skipping the gym or skipping workouts. Not stretching when you’re sitting too long.
- TOO MUCH: Taking on too many clients, or too much work. Taking on clients that you really don’t want to work with.
- ISOLATE: Isolating yourself from friends and/or family. Giving up hobbies.
- YOU TIME: Not spending time meditating, journaling, painting, reading; whatever is your own form of calming therapy.
- CONNECT: Not taking time to connect with whatever Spirit/Source you follow.
- SUPPORT: Taking on everything by yourself, not asking or accepting help.
YOU Are Important!!!
YOU are your business. YOU are your own CEO. YOU are important. And, your business can’t to anything without you. If you let yourself fall by not taking the time to appropriately give yourself the care you need, the care you deserve, then your business will suffer.
If you drive yourself to the point of adrenal fatigue (or just to the point that you can’t do your best work), it’s a lot harder to bounce back.
- Get clear on what days you’re working your business and what days you’re not:
- For example, I set my working days to be Monday through Saturday and Sunday is my complete day off.
- Get clear on the hours you will work:
- For example, I work Monday through Friday from 9:00AM until 11:00AM and then my afternoons are different. Most days I work from 1:00PM until 4:00PM. I designate two of those days per week (different days each week) that I will take evening hours and then I flex that into two other days that week where I work less hours. Typically, on Fridays, I will end my day earlier, usually around 3:00PM. Saturdays I designate work hours from 9:00AM until 1:00PM, however, if there is an event that is not work related then I will choose not to work that day. On the other hand, if there is a work related event that is in the afternoon, then I take the morning off. Say no if an arrangement doesn’t work for you, or ask to schedule to a time that does work for you. Also, if you work late at your computer, it will affect your sleep.
- Set boundaries:
- Tell clients when they should expect to hear from you. Choose your timeline to where you can over-deliver on that expectation. This will eliminate them needing any instant gratification from you.
- Get help:
- Pull support from your team if you have one or hire an assistant and start letting them do things for you. You have to learn how to delegate tasks.
- Find your community:
- Surround yourself with people who are smart, focused, supportive, and kind. Find a community that is based on goodness and will inspire you to be good to yourself.
Get out there and make things happen for your business … and FOR YOU!
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Treat it like the gift it is.
Hugs In Good Health,